Posts
- So, I have a new problem to report. The pussification of children in America and the long term results of this epidemic. It seems like parents are so into babying their children that they are completely ignoring raising them to be adults (which, by the way, is the main purpose of being a parent in the first place.). Preparing kids for the realities of life has completely gone out the window. I see this every day when I coach baseball. It is pathetic. "No, Johnny is not going to pitch this game because he hasn't been to practice in 2 weeks" "I'm sorry that his feelings are hurt" These are frequent conversations that I have.
I actually witnessed this first hand by our other coach last week. We got into it a little with another team and a player said he was going to go after his son. When I was a kid, this would be like adding gasoline to a fire, for me. So what happened? The parent literally wanted us to forfeit the game to protect his son. What a joke.
What is going to happen when these pussies hit the real world? What's going to happen when they get rejected by a college or a girl or get into a fight? I'm not advocating cruelty, but a little harmless bullying makes kids tougher. Guess what kids? Not everyone can win. Not everyone gets the job. Not everyone gets good grades. Not everyone makes the same amount of money. Or has whatever job they want. The problem is that, many times, the first time a kid gets told "no" is after they are an adult and they freak out. That's why you see more teen angst and suicides than ever. This trend needs to stop, now.
When I tell my kids "no" the answer is "no". I don't care how much of a fit you throw. When I give out a punishment, that is the punishment, no matter what. If somebody hits you, defend yourself and hit him back. If somebody bullies you, ignore it or stand up for yourself. If somebody throws at you in a baseball game, either pound the ball the next time you are up, or hit him back if you are pitching.
I know a lot of you guys are either new parents or will be soon. Please help me stop this trend. Your kids will thank you someday, even though they might not like it now, your job is to prepare them for the real world, not be their best friend.
Standings
Flix66.com
I Want That!
Jason's Examiner
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
10 comments:
I agree with you 100%! Children need to learn how to deal with failure and rejection prior to becoming adults. It is healthy for kids to learn about adversity and coping mechanisms. People today get off of their mothers tit right onto the governments tit.
As ususal Regs you paint with a broad brush on a narrow canvas, but that doesn't mean you don't have some valid points.
I would never sign up my kid for a little league or competition where they don't keep score or care who wins.
Kids definitely need to learn that there are two sides to a coin in any situation and how to deal with them both. There are just as many kids who are poor winners as there are poor losers.
As far as your particular situation with not playing a kid because he hasn't shown up for practice, well that's a little tricky, because the kid might want to be there but the parent just doesn't have the time or is simply lazy. I don't like punishing the kid because their parent is an ass.
Leagues should have strict rules so parents know what kind of committment they are getting into. There's a place for leagues where everyone gets to play no matter what and more competative leagues where practice is mandatory, placing a premium on winning.
As for the bully thing, I would always teach my kid to stand up for themself in a way that fits the situation. But there is no place for bullying period. It does not make a kid tougher to get bullied, it just makes them angry and depressed.
Pride in who you are, a good self-image, and the ability to learn from mistakes is all the toughness a kid needs, bullying is not required to achieve those things.
oh no. Liberal boy rears his head.
Have you ever heard the line "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? I was called a fat piece of shit so many times growing up that I can't even count. Did I hate it? Yes, absolutely and I couldn't even really help it. I had an undiagnosed birth defect that prevented my body from digesting certain foods properly i.e. red meats.
But let's take a look at the cause and effect of this childhood cruelty. Because of this, I ate healthy and excercised more. After I was diagnosed, I stopped eating junk food and red meat. Overall I became, not only much healthier, but I looked better (although I have slipped the last couple of years). If everyone always told me that it was cool to be a lard ass, I probably would not have made the changes.
With obesity, specifically becoming such a tremendous issue, you have wonder how much of this has to do with with this "everything is ok" approach to kids.
But I don't really want to get into bullying, because I can see merits to the other side. No kid should feel uncomfortable in their learning envirnment or on a team. A lot of it depends on the kid. Zac had a kid last year that was bullying him the whole year. We told the teacher and the principle about it.Finally he was at his wits end and punched him in the face, tackled him to the ground, raised his fist and told him to never bother him again. Guess what, he never did.
My point is that a 12 year old boy shouldn't have his mom feeding him juice boxes between innings. Because these are the same kids who will grow up and expect the government to forgive their bad housing decisions or to pay back bad investments (oh yeah, that is happening already). But it will get exponentially worse.
As a society, we must collectively take the training wheels off and let kids deal with issues and failures at a young age, so they are better equiped to deal with them later, when the stakes are higher
I know logic and facts are the right wing kryptonite so you can label it "liberal" if you want, doesn't phase me, you know, sticks and stones and all.
But I wonder if the kids who are 10x more likely to commit suicide and their families agree with your oh-so modern day approach. Another gem from the unevolved book of relic advice.
And you're not the only one that was bullied as a kid. And just because a kid gets tough because of it, does not make them better off in life. A lot of kids who get bullied also end up bullying others and overcompensating when raising their own kids.
It's a form of abuse, there is no amount that is apppropriate.
I too was overweight in Middle School and ridiculed on a daily basis. To the point that I was so despressed that I dreaded even waking up in the morning.
It wasn't until I took a nutrition class in 9th grade that I started to actually make changes. Knowing what bad food was doing to me on a health basis was more powerful than any dick head calling me fat.
Knowledge, facts and understanding are always superior tactics to fear, anger and revenge.
Duh, haven't you ever seen Star Wars? You wanna call Yoda a liberal? I dare you to do it TO HIS FACE!
And in no way do I support an "everything is ok" platform with kids. I do hate parents who so obviously practice this while their kids run around like little ass clowns in malls and restaurants.
And great analogy with moms giving juice boxes to kids between innings and the government trying to help people out of impossible situations created by "you know who."
That's a leap I don't even think Limbaugh would take. Well, maybe.
So I don't want to hear about you giving your kids any money for school lunch Reger. No art fees, field trips, nada. They're just going to have to earn that money the hard way, you don't want them being a drain on society now right?
Having a total hands off approach is just as dangerouse as throwing a saftey net, but as usual, you love to glorify the extremist view, although I highly doubt you practice it.
The point that I was making is that teenagers are more likely to kill themselves and committ horrific crimes because they never learned how to cope with things and everyone always told them that everything was ok. Finally they get a little freedom and realize that everything is not. Because this happens as a teenager, they take out aggression to an extreme.
I also said that I didn't believe any child should be made to feel uncomfortable in their learning or team environment. So you can't use that argument against me.
I don't go to extremes with lunch money, but when they want something, I at least make them earn half of the cost, so they learn the value of money and that you can get rewards for working hard. (I know that is crazy talk to liberals)
Oh and I don't recall anyone having a gun pressed to anyone's head to sign their mortgage agreement during the Bush years.
Reger could you be more vague or speak with greater hyberbole?
"everyone always told them that everything was ok"
What does that even mean? It's a completely empty statment.
One of the main reasons for teenage suicide is bullying. And these are kids that have been bullied for years. Some even resort to violence as we've seen time and time again.
And you still reign supreme as the king of contradiction. You say that "..a little harmless bullying makes kids tougher." Then you say, "I didn't believe any child should be made to feel uncomfortable." Well which is it, because you can't have one without the other. All bullying makes kids uncomforable, that's why it's called bullying. "Harmless bullying" is an oxymoron.
And no guns were used in the morgage crisis Reger, very astute of you to point that out. Once again using the "walk it off" method to fix a problem.
It was much worse than a gun, it was a scam. People were sold a bill of good by the president himself, to go out and buy a home. Dubyah says he wants every American to own a home and then crashes the housing market with 8 years of deregulations which are now almost imossible to overturn.
Due to those regulations, banks were able to give out very attractive and confusing loans to people who do not understand the business. And for those of us left that were responsible and got into a loan they absolutely could afford and have made every single payment, we have a worthless prison called a home that cannot be sold for even half of what we paid.
A bad investment is a bad investment, but when the government made the policy to create this situation you're dealing with a tainted deck of cards. They created the mess and now it's this president's responsibility to fix it. Although, it's much harder to get the toothpaste back in the tube. But hey let's just blame Obama and listen to the people who voted not once, but twice, for the single worst president in the history of this country. There is zero credibility for anyone who did that and is now spouting about how to "fix" things.
Great Post Reger....and I like the Rant.
However, The age of Children is very important in this context. If you are talking 12 and up...then yes....the more competitive the better.
But.....anything under 10 we should alwasy be preaching to kids sportsmanship first and foremost.
I like to think of it as what would Tim Tebow do.
Tebow would congratulate the other team for being aggressive but point out there is no need to be dirty or go after some kid to injure them at such a young age. As the Coach you should have had a discussion with the other coach and kept playing but if they are out for blood in a youth baseball league there is no need for that.
Unless it is AAU or something that is preparing them for College ball.
But....Yes I agree with you kids do need to learn the meaning of No and rejection early on.
At the same time......some of the best athletes are super competitive and are always out for blood.....but they don't make the best members of society.
Darrelle Revis is a Fantastic ATHLETE.....but would you say he is a good Dad or a good member of Society???
You want kids to learn competition but at the same time it our responsibility to teach them to be good human beings first and foremeost.
Keith. It is a progressive process. I don' t treat Shaylee the same way as Zac, but she definitely has rules to follow and expectations. They might be simple things like putting her bowl in the sink after breakfast or putting her shoes in the hutch. As she gets older, it will gradually expand. But if she doesn't do what she is told, she gets yelled at or punished. The thing we don' t do is give in. Does this cause friction. Of course.
I don't know long term how it will turn out, but so far, so good.
What I have noticed with today's parents is they will ask their kids to do something's , and if the kids don't do it or throw a fit, the parents will just do it for them. My issue is that this type of behavior is disastrous long term for the kid. Because at some point, the kid will get told know by someone, and when that happens, it has a longer, lasting effect.
Koko doesn't seem to understand this.
Sorry for the grammar errors. The apple auto correct was going crazy
Yes Reger, you're right. You are much too high-concept for my comprehension.
It couldn't be that you simply filter out anything that is against your force field protected ideology.
I know this will probably once again just bounce off your brain, but I did say, "And in no way do I support an "everything is ok" platform with kids." As usual, you move away from the point of the argument and just parrot something else.
I only disagreed with you on the point "...a little harmless bullying makes kids tougher."
Post a Comment